Episode 70

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9th Nov 2025

Alignment Isn’t a Vibe, It’s a Practice

Survival mode gets rewarded—until your body, marriage, and joy send the bill. Lara shares the cost of high-functioning pain (multiple miscarriages, misaligned marriage, radical redirection) and how choosing truth over performance rebuilt her life. We walk through Leticia’s 3-phase exit—Self-Awareness → Reprogramming → Reinvention—and show you how to apply it when peace feels foreign and your nervous system only trusts the hustle.

  • Survival mode = “functioning while falling apart.”
  • Peace can feel unsafe; your body needs new reps of safety.
  • Truth-telling in parenting breaks generational survival training.
  • Alignment is clear intention + clean energy (no manipulation, no masks).
  • Triggers are teachers; breakdowns are invitations.

🎙️ What We Talk About:

  • Conditioning survival: why “strong” is often just silenced pain
  • The lighthouse: practical self-awareness that changes your next choice
  • Therapy vs coaching vs intuitive guidance—what helps when
  • Somatic cues: reading your body before it hits the brakes
  • Parenting from truth (not performance) so your kids keep their knowing
  • Sales trauma & building values-led businesses without the grind
  • Micro-reflections: how to journal your day into breakthroughs


🔑 Key Takeaways:

“Autopilot is not peace—it’s avoidance with good PR.”
“Life isn’t happening to you; it’s happening for you.”
“Your nervous system needs evidence, not speeches.”
“You’re not here to endure your life. You’re here to live it.”


🧩 Try This (5–10 minutes):

  • Trigger audit: Note one moment today that spiked you. Later, ask: What did I feel? Where did I feel it? What story did I tell? What did I need?
  • Values micro-check: Before you say yes, ask: Is this aligned with my top 3 values? If not, it’s a no—or a renegotiation.


💬 Connect with Lara:

  • Website: larabokovay.com
  • IG/TikTok: @larabokovay


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About the Podcast

Survival Mode Disrupted with Leticia R Francis
Disruptive Unapologetic Conversations about Survival Mode
Survival Mode Disrupted is not just a podcast. It's a rebellion.

A raw, unfiltered space where we finally stop pretending we're fine and start telling the truth—the truth about the trauma we've carried, the identities they had to wear to survive, and the radical decisions we made to break free.

Because here's the deal: survival mode isn’t just a season. It’s a damn identity. One that so many were forced to adopt just to get through life, to stay safe, to stay needed, to stay sane. But eventually, it starts costing you more than it protects. Your peace. Your purpose. Your power.

This podcast is for the disruptors—the people who were told to stay small, stay silent, stay grateful for crumbs… and said “hell no.”

Hosted by Leticia, The Survival Mode Disruptor herself—a trauma recovery mentor, speaker, and woman who has lived through the fires of abuse, betrayal, and breakdown and still chose to rise—this show dives deep into the unapologetic exits from survival mode that no one talks about.

You’ll hear from women (and a few brave men) who walked away from toxic relationships, soul-sucking careers, generational dysfunction, religious trauma, cultural expectations, and the lies they were taught to believe about themselves. Not because it was easy—but because staying would’ve killed something sacred inside of them.

These are the stories of bold pivots, quiet courage, and messy but miraculous rebirths.

Each episode is a conversation—a disruption—meant to wake something up in you. Whether it’s a guest sharing the moment they chose themselves for the first time, or Leticia dropping a truth bomb that makes you question everything you’ve normalized, this podcast is here to shake the foundation of your survival mode identity and replace it with something truer. Something freer.

We’re not here for surface-level self-care tips or fake empowerment slogans.

We’re here to talk about what it really takes to:

Reclaim your voice after being silenced.

Reinvent yourself after being broken down.

Rewrite your story when everyone else wants you to stay the same.

Release the guilt of choosing YOU.

This is for those who are done performing. Done pleasing. Done pretending.

It’s for the ones ready to exit survival mode—not slowly, not quietly, but disruptively and unapologetically.

You won’t leave this podcast the same.
You’ll cry. You’ll rage. You’ll laugh.
You’ll see yourself in every story.
And more importantly, you’ll remember who the hell you are.

Welcome to Survival Mode Disrupted.
It’s not just a podcast.
It’s a movement.
And your exit begins here.

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Leticia Francis

I am not here to inspire you—I am here to activate you.

As a Survivor, Keynote Speaker, and Trauma Recovery Mentor, I know what it’s like to fight battles no one sees. I also know that breaking free is possible. My work is about disrupting survival mode, exposing trauma-driven success cycles, and giving women the blueprint to reclaim their lives.

🔹 200+ podcast features & speaking engagements
🔹 Global Women of Choice Award Winner 2022
🔹 Creator of the Survival Mode Exit Plan
🔹 Host of Survival Mode Disrupted Podcast