Episode 23

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18th Aug 2025

Healing Complex Trauma with Compassion

What if the parts of you that you hate… are the very parts that saved your life?

In this soul-healing episode, Leticia sits down with trauma therapist Kylie Feller to explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy revolutionizes how we heal from complex trauma.

  • 🧠 The real reason we develop people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional shutdown
  • 🧘🏽‍♀️ How IFS helps survivors connect with their inner world with compassion—not judgment
  • 💥 Why trying to get rid of parts of yourself only deepens your wounds
  • 🌀 The role of numbing, dissociation, and inner critics in survival
  • 🌱 A guided IFS exercise to help you meet your inner protector
  • 💫 The spiritual side of trauma healing that traditional therapy misses


🎙️ What We Talk About:

  • Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy explained
  • Why survival mode isn’t a weakness, but an adaptation
  • How childhood trauma fragments our sense of self
  • The gift of acceptance, and why it’s not the same as resignation
  • Generational trauma and inherited emotional burdens
  • How to begin befriending your inner world—even the messy parts


🔑 Key Takeaways:

“Your survival parts are not trying to hurt you. They’re trying to protect you.”
“Authenticity gets sacrificed when love and safety are at risk.”
“I didn’t need to fix myself. I needed to understand myself.”
“Healing isn’t becoming someone new—it’s coming home to who you’ve always been.”


🙌 Why This Episode Matters:

We live in a world that punishes softness and pathologizes pain. But Kylie’s story—and the IFS framework—reminds us that there is nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. The parts of you that are messy, avoidant, critical, or numb? They had a job to do. And now, it’s time to thank them—and let them rest.


This episode is for every woman who’s ever said, “Why am I like this?”


Here’s your answer. And your freedom.


💬 Connect with Kylie:

🌐 Website: www.kyliefeller.com

🧘🏽‍♀️ Insight Timer (Free Meditations): [Search “Kylie Feller” on Insight Timer]

📧 Email: info@kyliefeller.com

📖 Amazon: Daily Parts Journal (IFS-based guided journaling tool)


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About the Podcast

Survival Mode Disrupted with Leticia R Francis
Disruptive Unapologetic Conversations about Survival Mode
Survival Mode Disrupted is not just a podcast. It's a rebellion.

A raw, unfiltered space where we finally stop pretending we're fine and start telling the truth—the truth about the trauma we've carried, the identities they had to wear to survive, and the radical decisions we made to break free.

Because here's the deal: survival mode isn’t just a season. It’s a damn identity. One that so many were forced to adopt just to get through life, to stay safe, to stay needed, to stay sane. But eventually, it starts costing you more than it protects. Your peace. Your purpose. Your power.

This podcast is for the disruptors—the people who were told to stay small, stay silent, stay grateful for crumbs… and said “hell no.”

Hosted by Leticia, The Survival Mode Disruptor herself—a trauma recovery mentor, speaker, and woman who has lived through the fires of abuse, betrayal, and breakdown and still chose to rise—this show dives deep into the unapologetic exits from survival mode that no one talks about.

You’ll hear from women (and a few brave men) who walked away from toxic relationships, soul-sucking careers, generational dysfunction, religious trauma, cultural expectations, and the lies they were taught to believe about themselves. Not because it was easy—but because staying would’ve killed something sacred inside of them.

These are the stories of bold pivots, quiet courage, and messy but miraculous rebirths.

Each episode is a conversation—a disruption—meant to wake something up in you. Whether it’s a guest sharing the moment they chose themselves for the first time, or Leticia dropping a truth bomb that makes you question everything you’ve normalized, this podcast is here to shake the foundation of your survival mode identity and replace it with something truer. Something freer.

We’re not here for surface-level self-care tips or fake empowerment slogans.

We’re here to talk about what it really takes to:

Reclaim your voice after being silenced.

Reinvent yourself after being broken down.

Rewrite your story when everyone else wants you to stay the same.

Release the guilt of choosing YOU.

This is for those who are done performing. Done pleasing. Done pretending.

It’s for the ones ready to exit survival mode—not slowly, not quietly, but disruptively and unapologetically.

You won’t leave this podcast the same.
You’ll cry. You’ll rage. You’ll laugh.
You’ll see yourself in every story.
And more importantly, you’ll remember who the hell you are.

Welcome to Survival Mode Disrupted.
It’s not just a podcast.
It’s a movement.
And your exit begins here.

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Leticia Francis

I am not here to inspire you—I am here to activate you.

As a Survivor, Keynote Speaker, and Trauma Recovery Mentor, I know what it’s like to fight battles no one sees. I also know that breaking free is possible. My work is about disrupting survival mode, exposing trauma-driven success cycles, and giving women the blueprint to reclaim their lives.

🔹 200+ podcast features & speaking engagements
🔹 Global Women of Choice Award Winner 2022
🔹 Creator of the Survival Mode Exit Plan
🔹 Host of Survival Mode Disrupted Podcast