Episode 81

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30th Nov 2025

How ‘Little’ Wounds Keep You Stuck in Survival Mode

In this episode of Survival Mode Disrupted, Leticia sits down with spiritual coach and psychic Tracy Fance, who proves that trauma isn’t always loud, dramatic, or headline-worthy. Sometimes it’s adoption, constant criticism, emotional instability, and a life that makes you feel “never enough.” Tracy shares how being adopted, bounced between homes, and raised by highly critical parents shattered her self-worth and led to years of wrong jobs, wrong relationships, and survival-driven decisions. From watching a partner nearly die at 17, to navigating toxic dynamics, to healing through spiritual work and community, Tracy shows what it really looks like to move from autopilot to awareness.This conversation dives deep into everyday trauma, post-lockdown burnout, the school system, generational pain, and the uncomfortable truth that most people are in survival mode without even realizing it. If you’ve ever dismissed your story because “other people had it worse,” this episode will call you out with love and invite you to finally take your pain seriously.


🎙️ What We Talk About:

  • What “everyday trauma” looks like when it isn’t abuse, assault, or a single big event
  • How adoption, divorce, and critical parents quietly wire you for “I’m not good enough”
  • The ripple effect of early trauma on partners, jobs, self-worth, and decision-making
  • Why community and safe people are essential for breaking survival patterns
  • Leticia’s three phases of exiting survival mode: Self-Awareness, Reprogramming, Reinvention
  • The way family systems, past pain, and even spiritual beliefs can keep you loyal to your own suffering
  • COVID as a collective global trauma—and why so many people are stuck in post-lockdown limbo
  • How the school system, “good girl” conditioning, and corporate life create quiet, chronic survival mode
  • Journaling as a powerful, practical tool to expose your stories, patterns, and hidden beliefs

🔑 Key Takeaways:

“It’s not always the big, dramatic trauma that breaks you. Sometimes it’s the drip, drip, drip of never feeling good enough.”
“Most people are in survival mode and have no idea—because their trauma looks ordinary.”
“The person you became to survive will not be the person who leads you into your breakthrough.”
“You don’t have to stay loyal to the environments—and the people—that are slowly killing your spirit.”


🙌 Why This Episode Matters:

So many women minimize their pain because they weren’t “attacked,” “beaten,” or “publicly destroyed.” But the truth is, being criticized every day, emotionally abandoned, guilt-tripped, compared, or ignored is trauma—and it shapes how you love, work, and see yourself. This episode is a wake-up call for anyone who’s been living on autopilot, numbing with scrolling, hustling, or people-pleasing while telling themselves, “It wasn’t that bad.” If you’re ready to stop gaslighting yourself and finally honor what you went through, this conversation is your mirror and your permission slip.

💬 Connect with Tracy:

  • Website: tracyfance.com
  • Find her on social media as Tracy Fance or Tracy Fance Soul Healer
  • Free journaling guide available via DM / message request


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Survival Mode Disrupted with Leticia R Francis
Disruptive Unapologetic Conversations about Survival Mode
Survival Mode Disrupted is not just a podcast. It's a rebellion.

A raw, unfiltered space where we finally stop pretending we're fine and start telling the truth—the truth about the trauma we've carried, the identities they had to wear to survive, and the radical decisions we made to break free.

Because here's the deal: survival mode isn’t just a season. It’s a damn identity. One that so many were forced to adopt just to get through life, to stay safe, to stay needed, to stay sane. But eventually, it starts costing you more than it protects. Your peace. Your purpose. Your power.

This podcast is for the disruptors—the people who were told to stay small, stay silent, stay grateful for crumbs… and said “hell no.”

Hosted by Leticia, The Survival Mode Disruptor herself—a trauma recovery mentor, speaker, and woman who has lived through the fires of abuse, betrayal, and breakdown and still chose to rise—this show dives deep into the unapologetic exits from survival mode that no one talks about.

You’ll hear from women (and a few brave men) who walked away from toxic relationships, soul-sucking careers, generational dysfunction, religious trauma, cultural expectations, and the lies they were taught to believe about themselves. Not because it was easy—but because staying would’ve killed something sacred inside of them.

These are the stories of bold pivots, quiet courage, and messy but miraculous rebirths.

Each episode is a conversation—a disruption—meant to wake something up in you. Whether it’s a guest sharing the moment they chose themselves for the first time, or Leticia dropping a truth bomb that makes you question everything you’ve normalized, this podcast is here to shake the foundation of your survival mode identity and replace it with something truer. Something freer.

We’re not here for surface-level self-care tips or fake empowerment slogans.

We’re here to talk about what it really takes to:

Reclaim your voice after being silenced.

Reinvent yourself after being broken down.

Rewrite your story when everyone else wants you to stay the same.

Release the guilt of choosing YOU.

This is for those who are done performing. Done pleasing. Done pretending.

It’s for the ones ready to exit survival mode—not slowly, not quietly, but disruptively and unapologetically.

You won’t leave this podcast the same.
You’ll cry. You’ll rage. You’ll laugh.
You’ll see yourself in every story.
And more importantly, you’ll remember who the hell you are.

Welcome to Survival Mode Disrupted.
It’s not just a podcast.
It’s a movement.
And your exit begins here.

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Leticia Francis

I am not here to inspire you—I am here to activate you.

As a Survivor, Keynote Speaker, and Trauma Recovery Mentor, I know what it’s like to fight battles no one sees. I also know that breaking free is possible. My work is about disrupting survival mode, exposing trauma-driven success cycles, and giving women the blueprint to reclaim their lives.

🔹 200+ podcast features & speaking engagements
🔹 Global Women of Choice Award Winner 2022
🔹 Creator of the Survival Mode Exit Plan
🔹 Host of Survival Mode Disrupted Podcast