She Called Me a Liar: The Mother Wound That Lasted 30 Years

Ronda’s story is raw, heartbreaking, and deeply relatable for anyone carrying a mother wound. At 17, she was sexually assaulted by her mother’s boyfriend — and when she told her mother, she was dismissed, blamed, and called a liar. That betrayal shaped the next 30 years of her life, impacting her relationships, safety, trust, and even her physical health. In this episode, we unpack what survival mode looked like for Ronda: isolation, guarding her heart, struggling at school, and moving through life feeling like everyone eventually hurts you. She shares how her therapist challenged her to write — and how writing turned into publishing two books on Amazon as a way to finally release what she carried alone for decades. This conversation highlights the 3 phases of exiting survival mode:

• Self-awareness: naming the truth and recognizing the impact
• Reprogramming: choosing support (therapy + psychiatry) and rewriting the narrative
• Reinvention: turning pain into purpose and helping other women feel less alone

🎙️ What We Talk About:

• Being sexually assaulted at 17 and not being believed by her mother
• How betrayal trauma becomes a lifelong “guarded heart”
• PTSD + depression and what it’s like to finally get diagnosed later in life
• Isolation as a trauma response: “I don’t go outside” + “I don’t trust anyone”
• The mother wound and what it does to friendships, identity, and belonging
• Trauma in the body: heart symptoms, stress responses, and stored pain
• How writing became Ronda’s release — and why she published her story
• The pain of repeated betrayal and the lack of accountability from others
• What healing looks like when you’re tired of crying and tired of carrying it

🔑 Key Takeaways:

“Some of the deepest trauma is not being protected after you speak up.”

“Isolation can feel safe — but it also steals connection.”

“Your body will start speaking when you’ve been silent too long.”

“Healing starts when you stop holding it in.”

“Your story may be the thing that saves someone else.”

🙌 Why This Episode Matters:

This episode speaks to the women who have survived trauma and then got punished for telling the truth. It’s for the ones who became hyper-independent, guarded, and isolated because trusting people kept hurting. Ronda’s story reminds us that silence isn’t strength — it’s often survival. And survival is not the final destination.

💬 Connect with Ronda:

📚 Ronda’s books on Amazon:

• She Didn’t Ask for the Fire
• Letters From the Fire